Tactile deprivation. Any guesses anybody as to what I'm referring to? Well, yea as some of you have gotten it right and some of you are so off about it, thinking it's some sorta tech thing; by tactile deprivation I mean touch deprived. Now, let's understand our psychology behind touch. Touch uses one of our most important sense organs that is the skin which covers our entire body. When you touch, you also feel and you don't just feel a thing but you feel the texture, the temperature and the embodiment of the object which get's registered in your mind and creates a memory of that object in your head. Just how you know how an apple would feel different from your computer speakers or even a person's hand for that instance. Touch is the acceptance of tangibility of other objects or species in our system.
So now that we understand all about touch, let's talk about the deprivation of it from your life on a human level. Specially since all of us are going through this pandemic situation right now, I think we all understand the feeling of not being able to feel a lot of things tangibly. But tactile deprivation doesn't just talk about you not being able to touch but also about longing for being touched as well. Yea, at this moment a lot of your minds are wandering between peoples legs. Sure, that too but it's not just sexual. And that's a very big point I'm going to make because touch isn't always sexual. Touch is that warm hug you give your mother or when your dog is sitting on your lap or even fighting with a friend. As I've mentioned in the paragraph above, Touch creates acceptance. So when you're not touched for long you start feeling like an outsider. So you see how it does take a toll on you mentally? In this generation of every second person being a tech savvy, we miss out on a lot of things that could have created such beautiful memories in our minds. There's a software for almost everything. You might call this reducing human effort but for most of the people it is the biggest reason for depression.
Tactile deprivation is also being deprived of the right kind of touch, just how you would like it to be or what feels great. Well, let me drag a little bit of NLP tricks in here. So, if you want to build a great rapport with an official or colleague or even your love interest, touch them like they touch you. We always tend to give out what we would accept or want to accept. So if your boss shook your hand before leaving the hall and gently then do the same next time and watch the magic begin. With touch also comes timing so if your wife kisses you before the love making starts then initiate it yourself the next time before you make love to her. This makes the person bond with you. they feel similar to you and they feel validated. Therefore, are drawn towards you.
Grips are another very important part of touching. when touching with hands (which is the most used body part for touching) try to get a firm grip and a proper one. Try touching objects today and see which touch feels right and gives you a proper grip, that's the right kind of touch. A proper grip takes into consideration the center of equilibrium of the body, so touch gently to understand the equilibrium and then form a grip. So, GENTLE AND GRIP, remember. The more effortlessly you go through the transition of knowing the equilibrium and griping, the lesser awkward moments you create. Kindly don't start calculating for the center of equilibrium. Now that would be hilarious, won't it? Well, just try it out, you'll know. And this is applicable for human touch as well. So, observe a little and you'll be able to charm people a little more easily and most importantly, it would help them feel validated.
Kindly, use the comment section to share your views and experiences on Tactile Deprivation. Also I'm open to constructive criticism so feel free to share your views.
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